How To Stay Sane with Twins

I am so excited about this post that I wrote for Mommybites.

Take a look…..http://mommybites.com/col1/baby/staying-sane-twins/

Playground Rules…Do They Exist??

To the nanny in the playground who accused me of “babysititng” another nanny…this one’s for you!!

Like most young children, Jake and Rachel love the playground.  We are fortunate to have one right behind our building so needless to say, we are there every day.

This playground is perfect for my kids. It is small, covered by an awning and has only age appropriate equipment. It is a playground meant for young kids.

We have been going for months and almost everyday I am amazed at what I see or don’t see. Here are my observations up to now…

1- Please watch your kid. I understand that there are distractions at the playground. We all like to socialize with other parents/caregivers. However, you are responsible for your own child. Keep an eye on them.

2-Please don’t make me discipline your child. This makes me nuts. If your kid hits, pushes, grabs stuff from my kids or just basically does something nasty, I am going to intervene. I understand that young kids are first learning how to behave appropriately around other kids but I am not going to sit by and watch my kids get hurt. If your kid hurts my kids and you say nothing to your kid (which really is your responsibility) then I am going to.

3- Get off your phone. Enough said.

4- If you didn’t bring it to the playground then it is not yours to take home. We have lost shovels, buckets and balls from the playground. I understand that kids like to play with other kid’s toys. My kids do too. However, please have your child return the toys that are not theirs to their rightful owners. It teaches them about “sharing” and “taking turns” and prevents me from getting annoyed that I have to go back to the store and replace my kids’ missing stuff.

5- If your child is big enough to climb onto the top of the playground equipment then they probably belong in another playground. As I said before, the playground we go to is meant for young children. I often see older children playing there. Their parents are not watching them because let’s face it, they are not concerned that their kids will get hurt in a playground meant for little kids. That said, myself and all of the other parents/caregivers (whose kids should be there) are having to stay on top of our kids to prevent them from getting trampled by the big kids running, climbing and jumping off the equipment.

6- If your young child falls off the equipment please don’t yell at them for playing on something that maybe they should not have been. Again, you are the parent/caregiver- watch your kid!!!

7- Please close the gate when you leave. I will say for the most part, the gate is kept closed, however, there have been a few occasions when a parent/caregiver are leaving the playground while continuing to speak with someone still in the playground. They keep the gate open until their conversation is finished. That would be fine except for the fact that when some kids see and open gate, they make a run for it- leaving their parents/caregivers to chase them down.

8- If your child is in the playground then you need to be too. No, it is not ok for you to sit on the picnic benches outside the playground while your child is inside playing.

9- The playground is a public space, your child does not own the equipment. I know your little one might really like something specific in the playground but he/she does not own it and needs to move over so the other kids can enjoy it too. It’s up to you to assist with this.

10- If you are trying to get your child’s attention go over to them instead of screaming their names fifty times. I hear you, my kids hear you but for some reason your little one doesn’t. Why not stand up and go to them instead of screaming at the top of your lungs?

So yes, the playground has been an eye opening experience.

Back to the nanny at the playground…

I was at the park with Jake and Rachel. There was a child on the slide who hurt himself. I’d say he was probably 3 years old. He started crying. I looked around and saw no adult. I asked him if he was ok but he kept crying. Another mother came over and asked him if he was ok- he kept crying. We looked up to see who he was with and sure enough there was his nanny on the phone. She finally heard him, walked over to him (while still on the phone), brought him to a bench and gave him water (still on the phone) and then let him calm himself down (still on the phone). He eventually got up and started playing again. She was still on the phone.

After that, I couldn’t help but continue to look up at her to see if she was still on the phone. Guess what?…she was. Another nanny saw me doing this and said to the “phone” nanny, ” You have someone babysitting you. She keeps looking at you while you’re on the phone.”  She repeated it several times. She had attitude in her voice and was loud enough to make certain that I heard her. Can we say passive aggressive?  “Phone” nanny didn’t seem to care and kept right on talking. We were at the park for an hour- she was on the phone the entire time.

I do realize that it’s not my business if this nanny chooses to spend her day on the phone. It did become my business though,when a little boy got hurt and no one was around to comfort him except for me.

So yes nanny from the playground, I was babysitting “phone” nanny. Instead of alerting her that someone was watching, perhaps you could have suggested that she put down the phone and pay attention to the child she was with?? Wasn’t that really the issue at hand??

Ah…just another day in the playground.

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